tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4048254938161958788.post7329927545287256759..comments2023-04-28T04:25:04.370-07:00Comments on Somewhere Only We Know: Mom FriendsAmberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15679581758871860756noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4048254938161958788.post-67611564000600157702015-05-14T15:35:13.799-07:002015-05-14T15:35:13.799-07:00I can so relate to this even though I'm a FT w...I can so relate to this even though I'm a FT working mom. I also feel like I never get to have fun play dates with friends and their kids. But for me it's just because there's never time. Forget weekdays, and the weekends are so full of errands and cleaning the house and getting things in order just to start the next week...I feel like we don't get to have any fun. "All joy and no fun." Ugh. So that probably didn't help you. But truthfully doing anything with twins this age is near impossible without making one or both parents very irritable. Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14558132244688635245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4048254938161958788.post-37453498622473903392015-05-06T07:42:14.268-07:002015-05-06T07:42:14.268-07:00This really resonates with me. I think so much of ...This really resonates with me. I think so much of this is a twin parent struggle. Having two the same age is really difficult in social situations- two infants/ crawlers was one thing, but two non-listening FAST toddlers that run in two different direction is impossible. We do things with other moms/kids when my kiddos can be in the stroller the whole time and still be engaged- that gives me some adult time and they are having fun too. Things like a long walk in an interesting area or a trip to the zoo. I've also found our backyard is the ideal playdate- my kids are way more well behaved in OUR backyard because they already know what is ok and I don't have to feel stressed about what they may trample/get into. We invite friends over often and I have a lot more chances to sit and talk this way- it's totally worth it to always be the host. The cost of a few more Popsicles is absolutely worth my sanity! I've also loved being a part of Mops- the boys go to the childcare and i get two hours with other moms once a month- I've met some really great local moms this way too! <br />Hang in there mama, it can't be this hard forever... I hope :) Until then, virtual twin mama friends UNITE!!! waiting and wishinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12159033292946238622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4048254938161958788.post-70776145516796853002015-05-05T20:01:02.970-07:002015-05-05T20:01:02.970-07:00I wouldn't say my kids are wild kids but I sti...I wouldn't say my kids are wild kids but I still don't get much opportunity to talk at play dates unless the kids are putting food in their faces LOL. They need a lot of attention, even not being wild or destructive, they just need me to pay attention to them. Sometimes if I am lucky out of an hour I can get 15 minutes of conversation. Sometimes we are in a good spot, like outside with enough trees and sticks and leaves, that they can play alone so I can get more than that. But it probably also has to do with them not wanting me to pay attention to anyone else.<br /><br />The SAHM life sounds glamorous to someone who is working .. you see these women chatting it up at cafes and breezily running errands. Anyone who looks like they're breezy has done a lot of prep and you're catching them in a brief moment! I have great moments with the kids in the grocery store (for example) but I also have bad ones, like when one of them has a meltdown because I'm letting the other one hold the tortillas. What are you going to do.<br /><br />I also feel like often I see moms chatting together and I am left out, but that is kind of how I always feel in almost every social situation like my whole life. It doesn't help that my attention is divided more than theirs, and that my kids will go to opposite sides of the room and expect me to somehow be involved in their play (or at least I still expect myself to keep them safe). Twin life! You're not alone!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com